Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet demanding jobs I’ve ever taken on. When my husband travels for work, it can feel straight up overwhelming. Whether they’re gone for a few days or a couple of weeks, managing the household and taking care of the kids often feels like a juggling act. However, I’ve found that with some strategic planning and a positive mindset, I can navigate this challenge more smoothly. Here’s how I survive—and *sort of* thrive—when I’m parenting solo.

1. Establish a Routine

I’ve learned that children thrive on routine. Having a structured schedule helps everyone feel more secure when one parent is away. I set clear wake-up times, meal schedules, and bedtime rituals. Involving my toddler in creating the daily plan gives them a sense of control and helps them understand what to expect.

2. Communicate Openly

I make it a point to talk to my toddler about daddy’s absence. I explain where he is, why he is gone and when he’ll be back. Keeping communication open helps my toddler process her feelings and reduces anxiety. We often set up daily video calls to maintain that connection, which is comforting for all of us.

3. Lean on My Support System

Reaching out to friends, family, or neighbors for support is something I never hesitate to do. Whether it’s a quick playdate, a dinner drop-off, or just someone to chat with, having a network alleviates some of the stress. I’ve also considered trading babysitting duties with other parents, which gives me a little downtime while my kids enjoy social interaction.

4. Prioritize Self-Care

When I’m managing the household solo, it’s easy to neglect my own needs. I remind myself that taking care of myself is crucial to being an effective parent. I carve out time for activities that recharge me—whether it’s a workout, reading a book, or enjoying a hot cup of coffee in peace. Even small moments of self-care make a big difference. I also ALWAYS book myself a massage for when he gets back home for some very needed relaxation.

5. Get Creative with Activities

Keeping my kids entertained can be a challenge, especially when I’m outnumbered. I plan fun, low-prep activities that can engage them for a while. Craft projects, cooking together, movie nights, or outdoor adventures provide a welcome distraction. Having a list of go-to activities helps me quickly turn a restless afternoon into a fun-filled experience.

6. Embrace the Chaos

I’ve realized that things won’t always go according to plan, and that’s okay. Embracing the chaos helps me maintain a sense of humor. Kids are unpredictable, and being flexible reduces my stress. When things don’t go smoothly, I take a deep breath and remind myself that it’s perfectly fine not to be perfect.

7. Plan for Quality Time

When my spouse is away, I see it as an opportunity to create special memories with my children. I plan activities that allow us to bond, like doing a craft or going to the zoo. These moments strengthen our relationship and provide the emotional connection we all need.

8. Stay Connected with My Spouse

Even when my partner is away, I keep them involved in our family life. I share updates, photos, and funny anecdotes to make them feel part of our daily routine. This connection helps both of us feel more supported and engaged, even from a distance.

9. Be Kind to Myself

Lastly, I remind myself that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. I acknowledge my feelings and reassure myself that I’m doing the best I can. Parenting is hard, and solo parenting amplifies those challenges. I celebrate small victories, whether it’s a peaceful dinner or getting everyone to bed on time.

Surviving parenting while my spouse is traveling for work is no easy feat, but I’ve discovered that with the right strategies, I can make it work. By establishing routines, communicating openly, and leaning on my support system, I can navigate these challenging times with resilience and grace. I embrace the unique moments that solo parenting brings, and I remind myself that this too shall pass. Before I know it, my spouse will be back home, and I’ll have gained valuable skills—and stories—to share!